Egoistical recognition


Egoistical recognition-Exerts from Dr Napoleon Hill’s “Do it Now”

Psychiatrists and psychologists are coming to realise as philosophers and priests have realised for centuries that the basic drive of mankind is not sex or the urge for security but the demand for simple egoistical recognition.  None of us has so long to live that we can afford to waste a precious moment in such a negative way as carping criticisms of others.  But every moment spent in praise of someone else rebounds to our own credit.  For nowhere it is more true that- like begets like than in this instance.  It will help you to remember that no man or woman is entirely free of drive for recognition.  That includes your superiors as well as your subordinates.  Your boss at this moment is probably more tired more lonely and more disheartened than you realise. He would appreciate a word of sincere praise from you every bit as much as the one you hope to receive from him.

Even our creator expects us to praise Him and thank Him.  Psalm 100 which is only five verses long, tells us to remember God’s goodness and dependability and that we should praise Him because of this.  Verses 4,5 say enter into his gates with thanks giving and into his courts with praise: be thankful to him and bless his name.  For the Lord is good his mercy is everlasting and his truth endures to all generations.

As a matter of tactfulness beware of the person who invite you to ‘ go ahead and criticise me,  I want your honest opinion’.  Such an invitation is merely a sign of a person’s need for recognition.  Mankind’s greatest punishment for miscreants lies not in bars, not in prison; but in deliberate withdrawal of recognition.

As I go through these verses from the Bible and the teaching of Dr Hill, remorse strikes me very badly as I have wasted my long years of service by not appreciating  my bosses for their hard work and for discrediting the rewarded subordinates as obsequious persons.   When I am confronted with reality that less qualified and inefficient persons being benefited and gratified in service by merely doing servile duties,  my self respect prompted me not to become too emotional.  But somewhere in the innermost place of my heart it hurts.

Many years after retiring from service, the realisation that how much pain I have caused to the ‘foul mouthed boss’ who used the words fuck and shits frequently even at inappropriate places.  The narrating of the story to himself in the party while in an inebriated situation made him drain his intoxication fully charging me as an enemy number one thereafter.  He has even expressed his anguish to others naming me as the most dangerous fellow.


I could fathom my guilt now and can only ask for an open confession and say sorry for the utterance.   

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